Plus, it only prolonged them calling things off and moving on to happier relationships anyway. Likewise, going against your true feelings is probably going to cause tension, anxiety and insecurities, when really, you already know what you want out of this relationship.
The point I'm trying to bring home is, love is not a one size fits all — not even close — and by adhering to societal standards, you are probably only complicating things for yourself and fogging up your true emotions. When each person is vocal about where they stand in a relationship, there is less room for miscommunication, hasty decisions or one person feeling pressured into something they aren't ready for or waiting around for something they really want. It's totally fine to be a 22-year-old-wife and mother, and it's also totally fine to be a 45-year-old casually hooking up with a co-worker — The number one rule (JK, DIDN'T I SAY THERE AREN'T ANY DATING RULES?
For example, you've probably heard "don't sleep with someone until the third date," "wait this long to say 'I love you'" and "ONLY introduce them to your parents if you know they're the one."To all of that I say, go fuck yourself, please and thank you.Here's where I may lose you: My boyfriend and I moved in together after dating for six months. That makes me, like, oh-my-god-totally-crazy, right? If I listened to every "10 Ways To Surely Ruin Your Relationship" or "The Number One Thing You SHOULDN'T DO With A New Boyfriend" article I've read, I could almost guarantee sharing an apartment so soon was going to be the silver bullet for us.In fact, I did the whole move with my fingers crossed, thinking, "This probably isn't going to work out. We are freaking happy and have been living together for the past three years.Everyone everywhere is telling me this shouldn't work out. Contrastingly, I had a friend move in with her boyfriend after dating and living separately for a respectable three years, only to find out he didn't want to stay in their relationship in the first place. Stifling or magnifying honest feelings is only going to make for a dishonest relationship.
Essentially, the fact that they "waited it out" had nothing to do with the foundation of their relationship, which was their feelings for one another. You'll ultimately be playing a character you think fits the standard of "someone people would want to date" than being who you really are.There is no such thing as a right or wrong way to be in a relationship, and there definitely isn't an ideal relationship timeline to follow that will unveil a map to the perfect happily ever after.